1. Do you know exactly what you want and if so what is that?
2. Are you and your spouse on the same page?
3. What (in a general way) have you done before along these lines?
4. What have you already done to make this fantasy become a reality?
5. What would have to happen to make you consider your experience a success?
The No. 1 factor for the risks associated with the swinging lifestyle is the lack of communication. If you and your spouse are having any of the following problems don’t even consider venturing into “The Lifestyle”
Moral hang ups
Religious hang ups
Resistance to having difficult discussions
Resistance to making time for eachother
You must work through these first! If you don’t, you won’t be able to discuss the specifics that come with “The Lifestyle”.
Things to consider:
What is your motivation?
What are your expectations?
What is necessary to satisfy you?
How will you behave when in swinging situations?
How will you deal with things going badly?
What will you do if there’s a misunderstanding?
What is the bottom line most important thing in your relationship?
It’s worth it to prepare!
You will be with your husband or wife for the rest of your life while chances are you will only be with other swingers for very short periods of time. Invest the most effort into your primary relationship. You may have realized your fantasy but your dream life could become a nightmare. Once you cross the line you can never go back…like virginity there is no restoring monogamy once it is lost. Your forays into the swinging lifestyle will be much more satisfying with the right level of communication.
I liked this video…it is a no nonsense review on the swinging lifestyle.
Couples are smart to review the benefits and risks of the swinging lifestyle. The #1 factor for the risks associated with swinging is the lack of communication. As a couple, each of you need to talk about ALL of your expectations and concerns, no matter what. Anything left out has the potential to cause problems down the road.
Have the discussion beforehand about what you’re expecting. For example, what are you looking for?
To be in the atmosphere
You are not sure what you want and would like to play it by ear
Even though most swing clubs and events have their own rules and guidelines, what are the boundaries for you as a couple?
When it comes to touching – review each body part, not just erogenous zones
Regarding nudity – in public and in private
Is it ok to kiss another person of the opposite sex?
If you talk about these in advance then you will be united when you put yourself in the position to manifest your fantasies.