Oral And Anal Fun Part 1 Of 3

I’m sharing the following erotic writing to give you some ideas to explore, topics to discuss and possibly new activities to try.

las vegas masseuse bbbjI came into the room.  We started kissing and pressing our bodies together.  I sank to my knees in front of him, opened his pants and pulled down his underwear.  I wrapped my lips around the head of his dick, swirled my tongue first around his foreskin and then gently inside the foreskin around the glans.  He pulled the foreskin back as I began to move my head up and down taking him deeper inside my mouth with every move.  Eventually the head of his cock was hitting the back of my mouth and sometimes moving beyond that into my throat when I was able to make my forehead touch against his belly.  My gag reflex was triggered over and over making my mouth and throat spasm on the head of his dick.  The super slick spit came and all friction disappeared – there was only the sensations of my mouth running up and down his smooth hard shaft.

qrtr body shot 3 cmprssdHe slid his fingers through my hair and with a firm yet gentle grip on two big fistfuls of hair he began to control my head, alternately holding me still while he pumped his dick into my mouth, pulling my face against his body with his cock sunk all the way into my throat, and corkscrewing my head around so his cock would twirl around in my mouth.  As the arousal intensified he got harder and harder.  His breathing was ragged and he moaned his pleasure every few strokes.  Throughout this time I could feel my pussy getting wet and swollen.  As he was about to climax he pulled my mouth away from his cock and held it just out of reach of my mouth, watching as I strained to lick him with my mouth open and my tongue out.

 

Come back in a day or two for the rest of the story…

Spring Cleaning With A Twist

With April comes spring cleaning and I like to do it with a twist! For all lovers of anal stimulation I recommend experimenting with enemas – either before intimate sessions or during for added sensation and another prop for role-play and power-exchange. We’ll be talking a bit about douching and vaginal cleanliness along with penal cleanliness. This is also a great time of year to review safer sex methods to keep yourself and those you love clean and free of sexually transmitted infections and diseases.

Annilingus Discussion On Facebook

I had to share because I get these questions a lot!  Scroll down to see the conversation in a larger font.

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Q:  Do you prefer Annilingus?

Nikki Lundberg hmmm… depends on the partner and the situation. Sometimes it’s hotter but it doesn’t necessarily feel better (receiving). Giving is good when the person is relaxed and aroused. I don’t love an aggressive receiver if that makes sense. I like to be an aggressive receiver at times – but that’s more my nature of being inclined to be a top or dominant

    • Oky, m learning about woman psychology

    • You mean its a tool to fantasize?

Nikki Lundberg It can be. Because it’s an under – utilized erogenous zone for many people it can be extremely intense. It can be done as a gift. The experience can be completely about the sensation (somatic). Or it can be incorporated as part of role play or power exchange – done as a reward or punishment. Some people get excited by being a “dirty girl” or “dirty boy” or by “making” someone else be dirty. Or it can be a mixture of sensate based and role play/power exchange

    • Oky fine

    • Its my first coach, thanks a lot

    • I would like to know if it is done with a women what might be the reaction????

    • How extreme/wild reaction could i expect?

Nikki Lundberg It depends on her beliefs about her anus. Her beliefs will influence what sensations she is open to feeling

Nikki Lundberg For many there is a lot of shame around the asshole. Others couldn’t care less.

    • how you feel?

    • Do you feel wild and horny? When to use it for women?

Nikki Lundberg I’m sorry I don’t understand your question. Can you rephrase?

    • how do you feel if of anniligus?

    • Do you like it?

Nikki Lundberg I usually like it

Nikki Lundberg But I had to get over a lot of mental barriers around anal play before I like it

    • Do you feel wild and horney?

Nikki Lundberg At this very moment? No

    • But i brings arousal to you?

Nikki Lundberg usually

    • Ok, I got it I wanted to know does it really brings arousal or not?

Nikki Lundberg No person is the same. Physically is can bring arousal. But if there are mental blocks then it won’t. It totally depends on your partner.

    • Thanks! a lot

Nikki Lundberg You are very welcome:)

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Great Anal Massage In 10 Steps

Before you begin read through all the directions.

Items you will need:

• Oil- olive, hemp or grapeseedare good choices

• Towels

Optional items:

• Enema – like this one necessary if either the giver or receiver is concerned about a mess

Finger Cots– helpful for an added cleanliness measure and eliminates any concern about rough fingers and sharp nails

• Anal toys- good for prolonged sessions and more intense pressure.  Click here for a ton of ideas.

• Pillows – to prop up the pelvis or a wedge pillow like this one

10 Steps (for graphic how-to videos please visit NikkisLessons.com)

1. Have the receiver lay face down. Start with massaging the lower back, glutes, backs of the thighs and the place where the thighs meet the groin.

2. Once those areas are warmed up and relaxed begin to massage the area in between the butt cheeks. Use lots of oil. Gently explore and massage the tail bone all the way down to the tip of it. Explore the area below the anus. See if you can find the sit bones and massage all around them.

3. With your non-dominant hand, reach forward under the receiver to massage the genitals. Continue to use lots of oil for this as well. For improved accessibility have the receiver lift their butt into the air or place a couple of pillows under their pelvis.

a. For women, follow the tips for vaginal massage.
b. For men, if their penis is flexible enough, you can pull it down so it is pointing in the same direction as the legs and feet. Then you can massage and stimulate the penis and testicles without reaching. It is easier to get the erection going and keep it up during the rest of anal play because sometimes when there is increase pressure on the prostate it is harder for the penis to become erect.

4. Finally, begin to massage the pucker of the anus. You will be able to tell if the muscle is clenched or not. If it is clenched and firm do not proceed any deeper until you feel it relaxing. If you are concerned about cleanliness or accidentally hurting the receiver with your finger nails wear a finger cot.

a. Discomfort is normal as the receiver becomes accustomed to the pressure but there should never be any sharp pains. If there are immediately freeze and/or withdraw your finger. Sharp pains are a warning that damage is being done.
b.  If the receiver is very nervous or has never gotten beyond this point experiment with Anal Relaxing Spray and Anal Relaxing Lube.  These products contain organic and/or herbal ingredients that will relax the nerves in the area but not numb it.  Avoid numbing products because the receiver won’t know if they’re being hurt or if it feels good.

5. As you run your finger tip with firm pressure down from the tail bone toward the anus with you palm facing down you will feel a point where you finger will be able to naturally slide in. At this point your finger will be pointing toward the belly button or the heart of the receiver. Gently press in a little bit. Then pull out and get more lube on your finger tip from the surrounding area. Push it into the anus a little further. Continue this process gradually lubricating the anal passage more and deeper with every stroke.

6. Once your finger is reaching in as deep as the second knuckle your finger tip will now be poking into the exit of the large intestine. Curl your finger down and explore the front of the area.

a. For women, this will begin to stimulate their vaginal wall. The deeper stimulation may even reach her vaginal g-spot. While anal stimulation alone can be very exciting for women, most often it will greatly intensify vaginal stimulation.
b. For men, keep reaching deeper and exploring the front of the area. Although this is deeper on some men than others, you will usually find the prostate once your whole finger is in. It will feel like a strawberry or walnut. Apply firm pressure and ask the receiver if he can feel it and if it feels good. Experiment with circular strokes all around it and strokes running up and down. He may like one more than the other of both just the same.

7. When the anus is relaxed and opened up you can gradually increase the in and out motion of your finger until you are finger fucking the anus. If the receiver is enjoying this, slowly work a second finger in following the same steps as the first. The number of fingers you can get in depends on the receiver, how open they are mentally and how often you practice.

8. At this point you can stay with it as long as the receiver likes. You may want the receiver to change positions and lay on their back so you can engage them with eye contact and give them a greater variety of genital stimulation.

9. If they want more you can either keep adding fingers (some people even graduate up to a whole hand which is called fisting – the fist is actually not formed until the entire hand is in past the anus up to the wrist) or move on to toys. For more on anal toys check out that section.

10. When you are complete with anal play wash up with lots of warm water and soap.

 

Proper Penetration Preparation

I get a ton of questions about how to make anal sex feel good.  First of all, it’s not for everyone.  Second of all, it may take practice (for both giver and receiver) before it’s pleasurable.  There are of skills and techniques you can develop but there are also ‘helper’ items that I like to use even now that I know what I’m doing:)

These are a couple of different items I use whenever I’m going to have anal penetration.

First, I use an organic anal relaxing spray like the one in the picture. This one says “for women” but that is just marketing – the one for men has the same things in it.

When you spray this on you usually feel a warming sensation and it may even be tingly. This passes rather quickly leaving you more aroused than when you started. For a lot of women it makes them instantly wetter. This takes 5 to 10 to go into full effect.

After that’s feeling good on the exterior, I move on to using a lube for the interior. It also has organic relaxers. Work this into the butt and give it a few minutes to do it’s magic.

Neither of these numb so you won’t be in danger of getting hurt and not knowing it. Don’t get them on your pussy or cock – or mouth – it won’t hurt but it will feel funny and might make it harder to climax.

I also find that I like to add a bit more wetness to the mix as well. That’s when I mix in the Jo H2O lubricant. I like mixing the water based lube in… it’s also handy for more sensitive vaginal sex:)

If you have some lubes and products you like feel free to share – these are what have worked best for me:)

P.S. If you’d like to see some graphic how to videos visit http://nikkislessons.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

7 Things You Must Know About Anal And Sex Toy Cleanliness

There are some very specific things you can do to be clean and safe with anal play and using sex toys.

First, the anus:

  1. Always use lots of soap and warm water especially in the anal area.
  2. Using soap and your finger clean just inside the anus around the rim.
  3. Disinfectant wipes are a quick way to clean in a hurry.
  4. Perform an enema to take your cleanliness to the next level.
  5. Use a barrier (a glove for finger play, a dental dam, condom cut open or glove cut open for oral play a.k.a. analingus) to prevent bacteria transfer.

Second, sex toys:

  1. For sex toys use a toy cleaner for best results. You can also use rubbing alcohol.
  2. For fastest clean up and to ensure you are not coming in contact with any old germs, use a condom over your toy.

Having sex – and anal sex in particular – can get very messy. That is part of the fun for most people! The naughty factor and the possibility of making a mess can create excitement. Some people do even like to play with excrement – it is called scat play or brown showers. For me that is a hard boundary (something I won’t do no matter what) since nothing about poo is sexy to me. What is sexy is the intense sensations I can give and receive by stimulating the anus just right.

I’ve addressed cleanliness in this article because that is often the first concern a person has who is considering exploring anal pleasure. We think of the scene from Zack and Miri Make a Porno where the porn actress is getting penetrated anally and loses control of her bowels. That is hype and was made up to be funny. While anal penetration can be messy I’ve never experienced or heard of anything near that happen in real life.

Whenever you are stimulating the anal area in addition to cleanliness always keep in mind how sensitive it is. Be very gentle until more is requested. Once the anus muscled have relaxed, more vigorous stimulation can be applied as long as there is sufficient lubricant. If you enjoy anal play and want to continuously increase the level of pleasure you can take consider using a butt plug. By using a butt plug for short periods on a regular basis you will be more able to enjoy anal play.

Many men ask me if their interest in anal play means they’re homosexual or bisexual. The answer is NO! There are several reasons anal play is pleasurable.

  • Pressure in that area is naturally pleasurable… it’s important that we enjoy having bowel movements, right?
  • The prostate can receive direct stimulation which can be much more intense.
  • Some men like to be submissive and just receive the pleasure/abuse. In a long term relationship this can be a positive part of role play or power exchange.

Whether you are male or female, follow these suggestions and your anal experience will be a pleasurable one.

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