The sexually submissive person likes the idea of being surrendered or submitting to another person and being used for sexual gratification – nothing arouses them more! Most of this power exchange (if not all) is in the mind. Outwardly, little or no activity is happening but a lot is going on mentally. By talking about the situation both the Dominant and the submissive get into the headspace of their preference. The verbal communication creates the space for the fantasy to manifest. The internal experience is brought more sharply into reality through hearing it said out loud.