As a kid I began my masturbation as I explored my vagina in the privacy of my own room. I experienced more and more pleasure and I first identified my orgasm at around 10 or 11 years old. After making out with a boy who penetrated me with his finger I started experimenting with internal stimulation. That was where my masturbation practice stayed until my mid twenties. I experimented with vibrators and found them to be too intense and more of a distraction than helpful. I also started exploring anal stimulation during my solo sessions once a partner tried anal sex with me during partner sex.
I almost always masturbated during partner sex – I found out through masturbation that it was only through direct clitoral stimulation that I was able to reach orgasm (or so I thought). I would masturbate if I was tired and wanted to fall asleep quickly. I would masturbate if I was horny. When I began my journey as a sex educator I started to masturbate for new reasons – to know myself more deeply, to learn new things sexually and to meditate.
The masturbation meditation that I have practiced has provided some amazing insights both for myself and for those I have worked with. Through direct hands on practice we can intimately learn our own anatomy of pleasure and how to have a deeper and more expanded experience of that pleasure. We can work through issues we have with ourselves around sex, love, intimacy and image as lightning speed. We reach a new level of self knowledge that allows us to communicate much more effectively with our lovers.
By having masturbation meditation as a practice I was able to learn how to improve my sex muscles. This allowed my orgasms to become stronger. With continued practice I was able to identify more subtle peaks, climaxes and orgasms in my body and enjoy a broader spectrum of pleasure. I also learned how to ejaculate.
Meditation had never been a strong point in my life. I had desire for it but it wasn’t until I joined a class that had daily masturbation meditation as part of the curriculum that I was able to have the consistency I craved. Doing it with the teachers leading and the other students sharing experiences gave me the structure and the payoff that I needed to stick with it. Some of them went on to keep it as a daily practice after the course. 0 I did it daily for the course which was 2 months long and after that sporadically.
That 2 month experience changed my sex for the better. I found not only through direct personal experience but also through the experiences of my classmates that deep and profound progress could be made in the areas of overcoming sexual dysfunction, increasing sexual pleasure, smoothing emotions and opening the spirit. That is why I have made it one of the bedrocks of my sex education programs. The power of sexual healing in real and we all hold it in our own hands.
As Masturbation Awareness Month approaches I will be sharing more about how you can get these same benefits in your life.