Connection and wanting to feel connected are high on everyone’s list. These are also potential benefits of mindful masturbation!
How does this happen?
When you create a mindful masturbation practice (with or without masturbation coaching) you begin to sensitize yourself to more subtle physical stimulation. Part of sensitizing yourself is improving your attention (both the quality of your attention as well as the quantity or span). This sensitivity to subtle sensations and improved attention shows up in all areas of your life. You will be more likely to pick up on subtle cues and clues from those around you to know what they are trying to communicate and how they are feeling.
If you are interested in working with a sex coach online or a sex coach in Las Vegas you should set up an exploratory session with Sex Coach Nikki. Exploratory sessions are free. Email her at Nikki@NikkiLundberg.com or text her at 702.674.6606 to schedule a time for an initial chat.
Although Nikki is not a licensed sex therapist working with her is very therapeutic and could have many benefits for your sex life and your sexual health. She coaches in person, over the phone and on skype. Masturbation coaching is her favorite tool! Masturbation done mindfully and with purpose can help improve libido, give you control over premature ejaculation and delayed ejaculation, lead to becoming multi-orgasmic, ease pain during sex (for both genders) as well as make your solo sex life more satisfying and give you the capacity to feel more connected to the people around you.
It’s Anal August once again and I have some fun stuff to share.
I have an excellent full color pdf on the Art of Anal Pleasure that you can sign up for at right here ===>
You will also get a series of emails directly to your inbox with tips about anal pleasure. Please email me any questions you have so I can include that answer in my email tips.
At NikkisLessons.com I’ll be working on updating the Anal section – making it easier to use and adding new content. Please let me know if you are in Las Vegas and would like to volunteer to be in a video. Ideally I’d like to show more work with couples and also more diversity in my videos.
Live In Las Vegas
Learn To Give A Safe And Sensual Erotic Massage at The Art Of Anal Pleasure Interactive Demo & Lecture
Friday, August 19, 2016
Will be held at a Private Residence Near South Eastern and the 215, Las Vegas, NV
If you are always looking for ways to be a better lover then this class is for you. Sex Coach Nikki will be teaching an interactive class as well as performing a complete live demonstration. This will be followed by optional guided practice.
The number one concern for most people interested in anal pleasure is how to keep it healthy and safe. Included with this class is a series of emails and videos where I will teach you step by step how to keep things clean, and how to prepare for giving or receiving anal stimulation. I will also be available to talk about any questions or concerns that come up.
Anal pleasure done right is definitely an art. I look forward to performing for you and teaching you the beauty that is possible.
Have questions answered regarding:
•How to locate the prostate
•How to massage the anal sphincters for relaxation and pleasure
•How to use a strap on
•How to make sure to keep everything healthy and safe
•Much, much more…
You will leave knowing
•how to talk about anal stimulation with your partner
•how to stay healthy and safe
•how to create a safe space for any emotions that come up to be expressed
•how to deeply relax the body so it can open up and receive
•the anatomy of the anal area
•effective communication strategies for intimacy
•specific ways to tease and please the anus in particular and the entire human body in general
7:00 – Doors open 7:15 – Class begins. Doors are locked. No late arrivals allowed. 8:30 – Break 8:45 – Optional Guided Practice Begins 9:45 – Close Class
A note about the optional guided practice – I am implementing a policy that a telephone conversation is to be had if at all possible with every class attendee to discuss the upcoming class so I can tailor the experience to the people who will be present. If I cannot speak with you in advance I will not be able to include you in the guided practice portion of the event.
Some things to know:
•The practice session will be clothing optional.
•This is not an orgy or party atmosphere.
•This is a safe space that will allow participants to become completely aware of their body and their erotic energy.
•You must participate in the practice to stay in the room.
—Included in your registration for this class is the Group Sex Class And Optional Play Time that directly follows. Click here to see more.
Early Bird Registration Until 8/16/2016
$20 for singles
$30 for couples and poly pods
$35 for singles
$45 for couples and poly pods
This will be an alcohol free event.
No money will be accepted at the door. Click here to register.
The “Art Of Anal Pleasure” class was AMAZING. We had a full house and 2 amazing demonstration models. One was a gentleman who was a very experienced anal player who got to have his limits stretched by having an audience view his play. The second was a beautiful mature woman who on the outside seemed so sweet and innocent but once she got naked and I had my strap-on in place she was voracious! I was able to demonstrate all the anal positions I know with her. Everyone learned something new and a good time was had by all. I look forward to Anal August:)
All male therapists at this spa:)
I went to Bali for the end of April to attend a women’s retreat. It was transformational. Without the hustle and bustle of everyday life I was able to feel into some deep desires. Several came up. Here are some:
to work with more people as a sex coach over the phone and over skype
to work with more women in a healing capacity – helping with painful sex and numbness
to partner up with other professionals so I can have company when I’m working
to have more fun in my business
I’m so happy to be back home. I love love love so many things here in Vegas – my family, my business… I definitely missed it all.
Did you know that there are not any sex toy stores in Bali, Indonesia? I did not until I was looking for one. I was going to indulge in buying a new sex toy – part of the the point of the retreat was self care so I wanted to make sure to take care of myself sexually as well – and no one could help me. I finally found out that it wasn’t legal in Bally.
So when we had a free day I sought out a happy ending massage:) Actually, I’d already gotten a few massages (they are only $15 an hour there) but none of the girls would go there with me. I was finally able to get some relief when I went to an all male therapist place. I had this 25 year old island boy and he was very good at taking direction:) I felt MUCH better after that.
Happy Masturbation Month!!!
Yup, May is masturbation month. It’s something I love personally and professionally. Professionally it’s one of the most important tools I use in my sex coaching. There are many things you can incorporate into masturbation that will have a therapeutic benefit to either overcome sexual dysfunction or expand a person’s experience of pleasure. I’m truly enjoying the work I do with people that includes masturbation coaching. It creates a deep connection very quickly and that helps us move through issues powerfully and completely.
To cultivate is to acquire or develop (a quality, sentiment, or skill). In what ways do you cultivate yourself? Are you mindful about what you do in preparation of receiving what you desire? Do you have conscious daily practices in place?
In the past these concepts were foreign to me. I knew about wanting to have a better life. I knew that I had to do something different than my parents if I wanted a different experience. But I had no idea where to start. I was open to suggestions… and that’s when I started on my journey.
I learned ways to let go of what I already knew so I could embrace new ideas and beliefs. I became willing to try new things, to play and experiment, and to push to the edge of my comfort zone often.
Things that worked were honesty, positivity, creativity, and exploration. During this process I learned new skills, picked up new habits and ultimately began to take on higher level practices. These are all bringing me what I desire and preparing me for even more!
Here is a list of practices I do on a regular basis – if not daily – that cultivate me for the life I desire.
mindfully eat whole food
immerse myself in learning environments
have family time
What’s amazing is that the more I take care of myself the more it seems my life is taken care for me.
I’ve been doing a lot with Orgasmic Meditation (OM) and while I love it, when it comes down to it, OM is a partnered practice. With Masturbation Meditation you can have your practice solo.
For the last 3 years every May I’ve offered the 30 Day Self Pleasure Program for Masturbation Awareness Month. This year I’m revamping it completely, adding all I’ve learned, and putting it together to present to you with a bow on top.
If you are interested in receiving the details as things develop Email me at Nikki@NikkiLundberg.com and I’ll make sure you get all the insider info.
As a kid I began my masturbation as I explored my vagina in the privacy of my own room. I experienced more and more pleasure and I first identified my orgasm at around 10 or 11 years old. After making out with a boy who penetrated me with his finger I started experimenting with internal stimulation. That was where my masturbation practice stayed until my mid twenties. I experimented with vibrators and found them to be too intense and more of a distraction than helpful. I also started exploring anal stimulation during my solo sessions once a partner tried anal sex with me during partner sex.
I almost always masturbated during partner sex – I found out through masturbation that it was only through direct clitoral stimulation that I was able to reach orgasm (or so I thought). I would masturbate if I was tired and wanted to fall asleep quickly. I would masturbate if I was horny. When I began my journey as a sex educator I started to masturbate for new reasons – to know myself more deeply, to learn new things sexually and to meditate.
The masturbation meditation that I have practiced has provided some amazing insights both for myself and for those I have worked with. Through direct hands on practice we can intimately learn our own anatomy of pleasure and how to have a deeper and more expanded experience of that pleasure. We can work through issues we have with ourselves around sex, love, intimacy and image as lightning speed. We reach a new level of self knowledge that allows us to communicate much more effectively with our lovers.
By having masturbation meditation as a practice I was able to learn how to improve my sex muscles. This allowed my orgasms to become stronger. With continued practice I was able to identify more subtle peaks, climaxes and orgasms in my body and enjoy a broader spectrum of pleasure. I also learned how to ejaculate.
Meditation had never been a strong point in my life. I had desire for it but it wasn’t until I joined a class that had daily masturbation meditation as part of the curriculum that I was able to have the consistency I craved. Doing it with the teachers leading and the other students sharing experiences gave me the structure and the payoff that I needed to stick with it. Some of them went on to keep it as a daily practice after the course. 0 I did it daily for the course which was 2 months long and after that sporadically.
That 2 month experience changed my sex for the better. I found not only through direct personal experience but also through the experiences of my classmates that deep and profound progress could be made in the areas of overcoming sexual dysfunction, increasing sexual pleasure, smoothing emotions and opening the spirit. That is why I have made it one of the bedrocks of my sex education programs. The power of sexual healing in real and we all hold it in our own hands.
As Masturbation Awareness Month approaches I will be sharing more about how you can get these same benefits in your life.
The first step to improve your sex life is to acknowledge what has already happened. This is the hard work that many of us try to avoid.
Taking stock of the current state of affairs and the past can be very helpful. It can also be harmful.
Try the following two exercises:(tip: read all the suggestions first before starting)
Get into your body. Breath deeply and notice how you feel in the moment.
With a pen and paper make a list of all the things that aren’t the way you want them to be in your sex life. Acknowledge them. Contrast brings clarity but only if you see it.
Notice your physical sensations. Notice when things feel bad in your body. Avoid being too hard on yourself and dwelling in the negative.
Be as objective as possible. You are noticing and acknowledging, not judging.
Release the negative feelings you have tied to these things. The best way to do this is to take personal responsibility for your experience. That gives you the power to change your future experiences. If someone else seems to be to blame take a deep breath and look at how you might have put yourself in the position to be hurt.
Once you have completed the above exercise pause, breath, and move on to the next exercise.
It’s time to look at the positives.
Make sure you’re in your body.
Again with the pen and paper – write down all the things that are good/positive/going the way you want.
Make this list as long as your first list and then add 5 more things.
This exercise will help you to develop an attitude of gratitude and will help you to operate on a higher vibration making it easier to attract and manifest those things that bring you pleasure.
Find someone to share these lists with. If you can’t find someone you are welcome to send them to me. Why? Because being witnessed is the best way to release shame. Chances are you have some shame around the things that didn’t go well. By sharing them and putting the light of day on them their power diminishes. You may also get great feedback that can aid in acknowledging and releasing the negativity!
It’s December and I love it when a new month starts!
I know we can start fresh anytime – and, for some reason turning to a new calendar month helps a little more. It’s like I mentally and emotionally loosen my energetic grip a bit.
Why would you want to start fresh?
Whether what’s happened before was good or was bad (in my judgement) it can take the power out of our present if we don’t release it. If it was bad we can be dragged down by the negativity. If it was good we could rest on our laurels and be under motivated in the present. My November was mostly great personally and professionally and while that is exciting I also had a few things happen that I didn’t love.
By letting go of all that has happened previously and starting new I can open myself up to not only living in the present but also feeling my desire, benefiting from the energy of that desire, feeling the strength of my sex drive and libido, and make sure I’m on track with my sexual health and sexual progress.
There’s a saying
“If you live with one foot in yesterday and one in tomorrow you’re pissing all over today”.
Is starting fresh a challenge?
If you are struggling with making a fresh start I have a few suggestions that might help the process.
Acknowledge what has already happened.
Find a way to release it.
Fantasize and visualize how you want things to be.
I’ll be sharing more about each of these steps in the coming week so make sure to sign up for my newsletter by claiming your free vulva stimulation guide on the right=====>
I personally enjoy traveling and am planning on doing
more of it during the second half of the year.
Let me know if you want me to come to your city since
I will follow where business takes me:)
I already know I’ll be in LA during the second weekend
of August to speak at the New You Event
(save $398 when you use my code – the word sexy)
that will be all about health, wealth and relationships.
Right now I’m planning a personal trip and for the
first time I’m actually taking sex and intimacy into
account for the trip. In the past I just left it up to chance
and sometimes it happened and sometimes it didn’t.
We usually travel on the cheap staying with friends
and family which I love but sometimes that can infringe
on sexy time since we didn’t want to be too loud or
Of course, there’s almost zero chance of sexy time
happening on a trip when we bring my daughter
since we share a room and …
well, sometimes she’s a light sleeper.
This short trip is the first time hubby and I are traveling
without her in years and I’m starting to research a bit
about the night life of San Diego. Although we’ll be
busy during the day we might try to check out a swingers
club at night if we have energy:)
Recent private lessons have been amazing!
Couples traveling to Las Vegas on their vacations have
been having private lessons with me on a variety of topics:
How to help her enjoy anal penetration
How to find her g-spot
How to give a better blow job
How to incorporate power exchange (Dominant and submissive)
How to find his prostate
How to massage his cock
Tease and denial for him
If you are interested in a lesson/session send me an
email with your interest. Sessions start at $300 and
educational packages are available at a discount.
I look forward to reading about your travel practices and
giving lots of thank you gifts!
1. Exercise your PC muscle regularly (think kegles and/or urine control muscle).
2. ‘If you fail to plan you are planning to fail’ is a saying often applied to business. Apply that to your date night/play time.
3. Make the decision to believe your partner. If they say they like something about you accept it completely – this will build trust for more intimacy.
4. I recommend picking one night a week specifically meant for playing/exploring/trying something new. There is no excuse not to – when you make it a priority you will make it happen.
5. Be honest. It may be painful at first but like good intercourse it feels better and better the more you practice.
6. Breath deeply. Practice this often and when you are intimate it will be second nature. Deep breathing makes for better control and a more full body experience.
7. Be clean. Super clean. As often as possible make sure to be clean and fresh so you will always be ready when the mood strikes. There are ways to take extra steps if you have issues but most people are good with lots of soap and warm water;)
8. ‘Focus on the journey and not the destination’. In intimacy as in life, focusing on the joy of the journey releases the pressure of trying to make something happen and opens you up to actually receiving all the benefits of achieving the goal.