How To Give A Great Blow Job
- Make sure you are grounded in your body and you use the sensations in your body to guide you just as much if not more than his cues.
- Focus on having a good experience instead of giving a good performance. Consider going goalless.
- Practice, practice, practice. Try out all these techniques several times to see what feels good in your body. The first time will be the strangest because it will be new but by the 3rd time you will most likely be developing some muscle memory and be able to relax into the sensation.
Tips and techniques:
Use Your Body As A Guide
The more you practice the better you will get. And – there are practices you can adopt that will speed up your progress of becoming sensitive to your own body. The best I know of is Orgasmic Meditation. Second best is masturbation meditation. After that having a fitness practice and anything else that helps you to stay mindful and in the moment will help.
When giving stimulation feel the build up in your own body. As you feel the tightness build up pay attention to the peak. Once a peak has passed it’s a good time to make a change in the type of stimulation you are giving.
Make sure that everything you do feels good to you and your body. Yes, the receiver should like it, but if you don’t it won’t be sustainable.
Pay attention to your genitals.
Make it playful and have fun.
Stopping to talk can be ok. Letting your partner know what sensations you are feeling and enjoying makes them enjoy it even more. I like to focus on the sensation of the skin sliding in and out of my lips.
- Practice asking yes or no questions.
- Coach your receiver to give adjustments or make requests rather than complaints.
- Coach your receiver to give one adjustment at a time.
- Experiment with using a timer – only giving oral for 10 or 15 minutes.
- Experiment with taking directions – only move or change what you are doing when your receiver asks for it.
- Talk about what you are going to do before you do it.
- Review your experience together afterward.
- Go into the session with no goal or expectation of outcome. Shoot for a great experience, not a great performance.
Performing Fellatio (Giving A Blow Job)
Take your time at the beginning . Kiss all over the body. Resist the temptation to go straight to the cock. Going slow will create anticipation and heightens the sensation. Even sniffing / breathing will produce a sensation.
When you first take his cock into your mouth, pause. Let the sensations sink into your mouth. Feel his cock completely. Notice the taste, texture and aroma.
If you are low on saliva use lube. If you have a lot of saliva spit it out. Try not to swallow it. Allow his entire genital area to get nice and wet.
Use a variety of strokes.
- Long deep strokes moving your mouth all the way up and all the way down.
- Short deep strokes where you keep his cock as deep as possible and only bob your head up and down a few inches.
- Roll your head around with his cock in your mouth as you also bob up and down.
- Lick in circles around the entire cock. I like to clockwise as I move my head up and down so every time I’m at the top I go over the tip of his dick with the bottom of my tongue and every time the top of my tongue is on the bottom of his cock I take his cock into my mouth as deep as possible.
- Wrapping your lips around your teeth allows you to apply more pressure to the shaft.
- To increase the intensity and add variety switch to using your hand.
- You can hold your mouth still on the glans and use your hand on his shaft as he pumps in and out of your mouth for another sensation.
- Pull his cock in different directions. This will give him different sensations as you are stretching the muscles and tendons at the base of his shaft.
- If you deep throat (or attempt to deep throat) Even choking is a different sensation that can be pleasurable for the two of you.
Stimulate his scrotum and testicles. The skin on the scrotum is similar to the skin on the labia. It can (usually)be handled for added sensation. All these moves will produce different sensations.
- Light deliberate nibbling
- Stretching the skin to the point the skin is taught.
- Massaging the testicles.
- Pulling the testicles away from the body.
Massage his perineum. Make a fist and press it into his body just below his tesitcles. Move your closed fist in circles as you maintain pressure. This provides external stimulation to the prostate. This is also a good place to lick.
Different positions have different benefits. One good position is for the giver to lie down in between the receiver’s legs. Then roll onto one side your head can rest on his thigh. You can slide your bottom arm under his thigh (go over if that’s more comfortable) so you can touch the front of his torso. You can use your top arm and hand to stimulate his balls and butt as you use your mouth on his cock. If you roll even further you can reach down with your top hand to masturbate while using your bottom hand to stimulate his cock and balls.
Edging is when a person is kept on the edge of climax. The closer he gets to climax the more often you can change the stimulation to keep him on the edge. The longer you edge the more intense the climax (usually). This is also a time when a man can experience orgasm without ejaculation.
When he does finally enter into climax continue steady firm stimulation. Don’t change. Once the main peak of the climax has passed focus your strokes on the shaft as the glans can become painfully sensitive.