Sometimes getting in the mood for sex isn’t as simple as deciding you want to have sex. Our minds can be full of responsibilities, unfinished tasks, stress, and everything else happening in our lives. If you’re mentally somewhere else, it can be difficult to be fully present and enjoy intimacy…. Continue reading
Being clean and feeling comfortable in your body can make a big difference when you’re getting ready to prepare for intimacy. Feeling comfortable can make it easier to bring more presence and pleasure into the experience. While there can be something kinky about being with someone right after they get… Continue reading
If you want to improve your sex life, one of the best places to start is with a simple question: Why? Why do you want better sex? Getting clear about what you want is the first step toward creating a sex life that actually feels fulfilling to you. It might… Continue reading
I have been going through a lot of my old writing as I work on a couple of books. The first is a collection of erotic stories written by my alter ego Nikki Ivana, the Las Vegas Masseuse. The second is a revision of my 2012 book, Mild To Wild:… Continue reading
Hi! I wanted to make sure to keep you in the loop with all the exciting things happening right now:) In addition to the events below that I am organizing, I wanted to share a couple more: These first 2 are the most time sensitive: The First Ever New Orleans… Continue reading
How to Bring More Presence and Pleasure Into Everyday Life It feels so good to be getting back into my rhythms and routines here at home after several weeks of traveling! I’ve been focusing on being present in everyday life, and it’s making such a difference. A Simple Practice for… Continue reading
If you’re considering working with a sex coach, you might be wondering what the experience will be like. Many people come to me feeling nervous, excited, or simply curious. You may want to release shame, explore your desires, or deepen your connection to yourself or your partner. My coaching offers… Continue reading
First of all, I’m super excited to share that I’ll be teaching at an amazing event in January in Arlington VA called Interfusion! It’s a huge honor to be teaching at this event. It’s held January 9-13. I will have limited availability to meet for sessions during the event. If… Continue reading
On April 18th, 2022, I went to see (another) doctor about chronic pain in my right hip. I found out I had advanced arthritis and no cartilage left in the joint, and that I could have hip replacement surgery! I was super excited and scheduled it as soon as possible,… Continue reading
For mindful masturbation, we need to begin by slowing down and paying attention. Sometimes we don’t want to slow down and get quiet with ourselves because what bubbles up may be uncomfortable. As a result, the parts of ourselves we’ve ignored or actively repressed may come up for us to… Continue reading