On April 18th I went to see (another) dr about chronic pain in my right hip. I found out I had advanced arthritis and no cartilage left in the joint and that I could have hip replacement surgery! I was super excited and scheduled it as soon as possible which was… Continue reading →
When I first started providing sensual and erotic massage 13 years ago, I learned to follow a person’s pleasure with my touch. My clientele was 99% men. With my hands I followed the energy and movement of their body, venturing more closely to their anal area with each stroke. I… Continue reading →
“Seeing you is so much better than seeing that psychiatrist” she to me as we left my office tonight. A woman who’s been my student for awhile and who is now getting private coaching. She thinks she appreciates the time I spend with her. I think it’s more about the… Continue reading →
Just finished working with Angela Dahlem on our upcoming Women Healing Women Pilot Program. We went in to some deep revealing work, answering journal prompts that let us see our unconscious beliefs and fears. Making the unconscious conscious – how could we ever let go of these things if we… Continue reading →
It means we have to change, to take care of ourselves, to put ourselves first, will the price be too high?
All the healing we need to do – healing our hearts, our minds, and our bodies. The price we pay to heal is expensive.
Shame, grief, trauma, negative belief systems, fears… so much running in our system that we need to navigate to be better, to be okay, to experience freedom and joy.
Especially if we are sensitive, empathic, and caring. The state of the world can be heartbreaking. How can we come into ourselves and feel good when there is so much pain in the world and in our own selves?
Be here now.
Be in the present moment.
Connect with your body. Relax and release, over and over.
Connect with Source, Inner Being, Universe – whatever is true and eternal for you.
Connect and be with yourself right now. Notice without judgment.
Take pleasure in the Now. See where the pain ends. See if there is any nuance to the pain that you might be able to enjoy.
Touching the edge of a bruise can feel good in a way…
These are some of the ways I work with my mind when up-leveling. It is how I work with my clients when they are experiencing growing pains. It is how I show up as a facilitator, walking the path with a class for a new experience.
On Saturday, 3/19/22, Angela Dahlem and I will be co-facilitating an intimate workshop so you can explore and experience some release using concepts like these.
If these ideas resonate with you, I’d love to have you there. Together, we can see how the price of pleasure is worth it because we are worth it; it is a birthright, and we deserve it.
Please check out this event and let me know what you think
I’ve been to dozens of classes in my life. I remember when I first started going to classes to learn about different kinks. At the time, I was just starting out as a professional dominatrix. This had evolved from clients asking for kinky activities during their sensual massages. As I… Continue reading →
Follow me on eventbrite for events https://www.eventbrite.com/o/sex-coach-nikki-10520545898 • Female ejaculation aka Squirting can be super, super pleasurable, and also you can have a lot of pleasure without it. So don’t think you’re doing something wrong if you can’t achieve it. But I do believe every woman can access it. Every… Continue reading →
Someone will be interested in you or not. The best thing you can do is be yourself as much as possible. It doesn’t matter who you are with or what you are doing as long as you are being yourself. Learn to give yourself the attention and adoration you desire…. Continue reading →
Do you think it is truly possible to put self-care, including self-pleasure, first? I see it espoused all the time – to prioritize yourself. Take care of yourself. I move in circles where they prioritize pleasure above everything else. Use it as a foundation and a basis for life and… Continue reading →
What is your favorite mindfulness practice? I just had a great meditation! There are so many practices that have us get into the present moment. The particular practice I just did is called existential kink. You can google it for more info but I’ll share my experience here. See –… Continue reading →