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When I first started providing sensual and erotic massage 13 years ago, I learned to follow a person’s pleasure with my touch. My clientele was 99% men. With my hands I followed the energy and movement of their body, venturing more closely to their anal area with each stroke. I… Continue reading
“Seeing you is so much better than seeing that psychiatrist” she to me as we left my office tonight. A woman who’s been my student for awhile and who is now getting private coaching. She thinks she appreciates the time I spend with her. I think it’s more about the… Continue reading
Just finished working with Angela Dahlem on our upcoming Women Healing Women Pilot Program. We went in to some deep revealing work, answering journal prompts that let us see our unconscious beliefs and fears. Making the unconscious conscious – how could we ever let go of these things if we… Continue reading
I’ve been to dozens of classes in my life. I remember when I first started going to classes to learn about different kinks. At the time, I was just starting out as a professional dominatrix. This had evolved from clients asking for kinky activities during their sensual massages. As I… Continue reading
Follow me on eventbrite for events https://www.eventbrite.com/o/sex-coach-nikki-10520545898 • Female ejaculation aka Squirting can be super, super pleasurable, and also you can have a lot of pleasure without it. So don’t think you’re doing something wrong if you can’t achieve it. But I do believe every woman can access it. Every… Continue reading
Someone will be interested in you or not. The best thing you can do is be yourself as much as possible. It doesn’t matter who you are with or what you are doing as long as you are being yourself. Learn to give yourself the attention and adoration you desire…. Continue reading
Do you think it is truly possible to put self-care, including self-pleasure, first? I see it espoused all the time – to prioritize yourself. Take care of yourself. I move in circles where they prioritize pleasure above everything else. Use it as a foundation and a basis for life and… Continue reading
What is your favorite mindfulness practice? I just had a great meditation! There are so many practices that have us get into the present moment. The particular practice I just did is called existential kink. You can google it for more info but I’ll share my experience here. See –… Continue reading