Treasures from Self-Examination and Pleasure Practices

Insights from personal inventory and pleasure practices.  This is an example of what comes out of the work I teach.  I’ll be sharing about it during my upcoming (free) Female Pleasure Challenge next week.  Join my group at 100 Pussy Project | Facebook, go to the events, and RSVP “going”… Continue reading

Romance, Polyamory and Personal Integrity

Romance is the most tender part of many people’s lives and often the most difficult to talk about.  This is where we can feel most vulnerable – not only personally but also as a unit with our loves (both family and romantic). We feel like we have so much judgement on ourselves and others –… Continue reading

Connection Thru Masturbation

Connection and wanting to feel connected are high on everyone’s list.  These are also potential benefits of mindful masturbation! How does this happen? When you create a mindful masturbation practice (with or without masturbation coaching) you begin to sensitize yourself to more subtle physical stimulation.  Part of sensitizing yourself is improving… Continue reading

Non Violent Communication Is A Great Tool!

To bridge the gap between the masculine “how” and the feminine “what”.  I’ve suggested this tool to several clients over the last couple weeks with great success. Many of us are verbally abusive or violent with our partners and we don’t even realize it.  We dominate, manipulate, and give guilt… Continue reading

Monogamy Vs. Non-Monogamy | Social Conditioning

The hardest part of “coming out” was to acknowledge and accept that I am not monogamous to myself. I felt a lot of judgment for myself because of the stories/programming/conditioning I had around what monogamy and non-monogamy meant. Their meaning didn’t match up to my definition of self and that… Continue reading

Coming Out As Polyamorous

My husband and I began living a polyamorous lifestyle in spring of 2013. We are consensually non-monogamous. We both date casually as well as carrying on serious romantic commitments with others. We agree to always let each other know where we are, to make sure our daughter is taken care… Continue reading

A Fresh Start For Your Sex Life In 3 Steps

It’s December and I love it when a new month starts! I know we can start fresh anytime – and, for some reason turning to a new calendar month helps a little more. It’s like I mentally and emotionally loosen my energetic grip a bit. Why would you want to… Continue reading

Too Busy For Sex?

too busy for sex? Sex Coach Nikki can help

I have been making some updates to this site the last couple of days and just realized that I haven’t written a blog post for over 2 months.  Unbelievable!  I mean, I get lots of satisfaction from writing.  It helps with all kinds of things – helping people, SEO, creating… Continue reading