Fellatio, also known as oral sex for men, can be a wonderful way to spice up your sex life! The tips I’m sharing come from my personal experience, including the techniques I’ve received the most compliments on.
Fellatio (as well as cunnilingus) is often thought of as foreplay before intercourse, which it certainly can be. But why not make it the main event?
1. Build Anticipation Before Oral Sex
Foreplay isn’t just for intercourse! Building anticipation can make oral pleasure even more exciting for your partner. This particular experience is focused on his pleasure, so have fun rocking his world!
You can kiss your way down his body, avoiding his penis and scrotum at first. Spend a few minutes focusing on his thighs, kissing them all over and lightly running your fingers or tongue across his skin.
If you know your man likes it a little rougher, gradually add more pressure and pay attention to his response. The idea is to build anticipation and excitement before you even touch his package.
For more ideas on creating anticipation, read my guide on how to get in the mood for sex.
2. Don’t Forget These Sensitive Areas
Don’t forget about his balls or perineum! These sensitive areas are often overlooked, even though they’re just inches away from your face.
Gently fondle his balls while using your mouth on his penis, adjusting your touch according to what he enjoys.
You can even gently pull them down and away from the body, if he enjoys that sensation. Some men find that this can help delay orgasm, although results vary.
Use your fingers to gently massage the perineum (the area between his scrotum and anus). Pressure here may indirectly stimulate the prostate and enhance pleasure. Some men find that it also intensifies their orgasms.
If you’d like to explore more ways to give him pleasure through touch, check out my article on how to give a man a sensual massage.
3. Communicate About Preferences and Boundaries
Where and When? Before going down on your guy, it’s worth having a conversation about where and when he might ejaculate. Are you comfortable swallowing, or would you prefer something else?
Would you prefer that he ejaculates on another part of your body, in your mouth, or somewhere else? What does he prefer? Talk about what feels comfortable and enjoyable for both of you.
Some women are comfortable with deep penetration from the beginning, while others prefer to take things slowly. If you want to explore going deeper, communicate clearly and let the person giving oral sex control the depth and pace.
Many women have a sensitive gag reflex, and while there are techniques that may help you become more comfortable if that’s your goal, it’s important to discuss your boundaries before you’re in the heat of the moment. Never feel pressured to go deeper than you’re comfortable with.
For more information about communicating preferences and exploring pleasure, visit Planned Parenthood’s sexual pleasure resources.
4. Add Variety to Your Oral Sex Techniques
Variety! Lick him up and down the shaft and around the head of his penis. The best lube is your spit, and lots of it! If the saliva isn’t flowing, you can always add a body-safe lubricant suitable for oral sex.
He may love the sensation of your wet lips and tongue all over his package.
Use your hands, too! You can place one hand at the base of his penis and rotate it in circular motions while using your mouth on the head. Or move your hand up and down the shaft in rhythm with your mouth.
The combination of sensations can drive him absolutely wild!
Be careful with your teeth unless you know he enjoys that sensation, and always start gently. Teeth are sharp and his penis is sensitive. Nothing will kill the mood faster than him sitting up and screaming “Ouch!” at the top of his lungs.
For more ways to explore pleasurable touch, read my article on how to include genital massage in a sensual massage.
5. Enjoy Giving as Much as Receiving
Get excited about it! When you’re genuinely enjoying yourself, your enthusiasm can make the experience even more pleasurable for him.
Want More Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life?
Oral pleasure is just one of the many ways to bring more excitement and connection into your intimate experiences! In my book, Mild To Wild: Fun and Easy Ways To Heighten Your Intimacy, I share practical tips, playful exercises, and new ideas to help you explore pleasure, deepen intimacy, and have more fun together. Whether you’re just getting started or looking for something new, there’s plenty to discover!
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