Exploring Sensation Play
Adding sensation play to love making sessions can increase the intensity of your time together. Bondage and blindfolding will increase a partner’s vulnerability and help them to be focused on the sensations in their body.
Make sure to keep it fun and interesting using a variety of objects and types of touch.
If you’re interested in learning how to incorporate this, just ask me, Sex Coach Nikki. Also, feel free to check out www.NikkisLessons.com.
You can also learn more in my articles on Sensation Play for Beginners and BDSM for Beginners.
Below is the transcript in case you’d rather read it 🙂
Bondage, Blindfolds, and Trust
Here’s a recap from a session with a friend focused on sensation play. Basically, it was all focused on sensation play and the pleasure side of the spectrum.
We didn’t use any safe word, nothing like that. We just agreed that if there was something happening that he didn’t love, I would stop and we would talk about it.
That never happened because I go very slow. I was able to just be in tune with him. I definitely did stretch his boundaries, so that was a huge pleasure.
I’m going to show you some of the things I used and let you see what you think.
Here we are in my session room after my session. Here I am! (laughing)
This is the bed we were on. The first thing I did was gently tie him up in my restraints. We used the Velcro straps and attached them to the edges of the bed.
He was loosely bound in a very comfortable spread eagle position. I also had the blindfold on him.
You know, this is someone who normally has a very high level of stress. He’s very much a take charge kind of person.
For him to give up control is a big deal. It’s a really big deal, and I felt honored that he would do it. It was great.
Taking away his sight made him that much more vulnerable and out of control. He became more focused on the sensations in his body, which made everything more intense.
Exploring Different Sensations
Some of the things I used started out soft with this feather duster. Then we went on to this belt.
I ran the belt over his body, softly at first. Then I gave him little taps so he could experience the sensation of the impact.
Next, I took this other belt. It’s a little more serious and stiffer. Again, I ran it over his body and then used just the tip for some impact play. That was nice.
Then I used this flogger. This flogger is very soft. It’s suede, and when you just set it down, there’s no pain to it. I did some brushing with it.
We got a little more into the impact side of things with another flogger. This one actually has some metal on the end.
I did some brushing, both slow and fast, and then some little impacts on his nipples and genitals. It’s really intense.
When all that was done, I got out the vibrator. It’s not plugged in right now, so you can’t hear the vibration.
Between that and the lube, I got on top of him. While he was working to pleasure me, I was playing with him using the vibrator.
It was really nice because he was totally, you know, out of control. He basically experienced a type of orgasm that he’d never felt before.
Because of his situation, where he was spread eagle, it was like he couldn’t work to make it happen.
When that orgasm came, it was completely the kind of orgasm where he was letting go. He couldn’t clench his muscles or bear down. He couldn’t work harder to make it happen.