Sometimes couples need a little help finding their way back to pleasure and intimacy. This couples sex coaching for intimacy experience involved partners who had been struggling with sexual difficulties, including painful penetration. They wanted to explore new ways of connecting and enjoying each other.
During our session, we explored communication, physical sensations, and shared pleasure.
Exploring Shared Pleasure Together
He desired an orgasm and ejaculation. He wanted to fulfill his fantasy of being with two women.
I lay on one side of him, and his girlfriend lay on the other. The three of us cuddled nude on the bed as they kissed. I massaged his body, taking time to stimulate his nipples and cock.
He asked his girlfriend to suck his dick, and as she did that, he relaxed into the pleasure.
After several minutes of this, he pulled her face back up to his for a deep, loving kiss. I put my hand on his cock and slowly but firmly stroked it until he reached a body-shaking orgasm.
How Orgasmic Meditation Influenced My Coaching
Throughout the entire experience, I drew heavily upon my personal experience with Orgasmic Meditation (OM).
The communication style of making requests and the practice of focusing on the most subtle sensations of physical stimulation had been critical in developing my sexual experience that past year.
I talked to them about orgasmic meditation and explained how there is training involved. I demonstrated on the girlfriend what an OM session would look like.
They were very grateful and said it felt like a good practice for them too.
Learning to notice subtle sensations can also be part of a personal exploration practice. I share more about this in Treasures From Self-Examination and Pleasure Practices.
Exercises I Recommended for the Couple
At the time, I suggested the following exercises for them to continue their progress:
- They do anal massage at least three times per week.
- She go to the website www.vaginismus.com and purchase the dilator set they sell. I suggested following their instructions to slowly and gently stretch her vaginal opening.
- She incorporate castor oil in her self touch.
- He enroll in my 30 Day Self Pleasure Program to help with resensitizing his genitals, strengthening his PC muscles, and breaking his reliance upon porn for arousal and climax.
- They find Orgasmic Meditation training, either online or in person, so they could continue their connection with each other and reinforce their ability to focus on physical sensations.
An important note about these recommendations: These suggestions reflect what I recommended during this session in 2014. Persistent vaginal pain deserves evaluation by a qualified healthcare professional. Vaginal dilators may be helpful for some people, but their use should be individualized and ideally guided by a qualified clinician, such as a pelvic floor physical therapist. You can learn more from Cleveland Clinic’s information on vaginal dilators.
Castor oil may cause irritation and is not a substitute for a suitable personal lubricant. Anal massage should always be optional, consensual, and comfortable rather than performed on a required schedule. No one should push through pain.
Continuing Couples Sex Coaching for Intimacy
Couples can continue exploring connection and pleasure through communication, curiosity, and shared experiences. The important thing is finding what feels right for both partners.
For more ideas about nurturing your relationship, read How to Make Time for Intimacy in Your Relationship.
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