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The “Art Of Anal Pleasure” class was AMAZING.  We had a full house and 2 amazing demonstration models.  One was a gentleman who was a very experienced anal player who got to have his limits stretched by having an audience view his play.  The second was a beautiful mature woman who on the outside seemed so sweet and innocent but once she got naked and I had my strap-on in place she was voracious!  I was able to demonstrate all the anal positions I know with her.  Everyone learned something new and a good time was had by all.  I look forward to Anal August:)

Bali Trip

sex coach nikki gets a happy ending massage in Bali

All male therapists at this spa:)

I went to Bali for the end of April to attend a women’s retreat.  It was transformational.  Without the hustle and bustle of everyday life I was able to feel into some deep desires.  Several came up.  Here are some:

  • to work with more people as a sex coach over the phone and over skype
  • to work with more women in a healing capacity – helping with painful sex and numbness
  • to partner up with other professionals so I can have company when I’m working
  • to have more fun in my business

I’m so happy to be back home.  I love love love so many things here in Vegas – my family, my business…  I definitely missed it all.

Did you know that there are not any sex toy stores in Bali, Indonesia?  I did not until I was looking for one.  I was going to indulge in buying a new sex toy – part of the the point of the retreat was self care so I wanted to make sure to take care of myself sexually as well – and no one could help me.  I finally found out that it wasn’t legal in Bally.

So when we had a free day I sought out a happy ending massage:)  Actually, I’d already gotten a few massages (they are only $15 an hour there) but none of the girls would go there with me.  I was finally able to get some relief when I went to an all male therapist place.  I had this 25 year old island boy and he was very good at taking direction:)  I felt MUCH better after that.

Happy Masturbation Month!!!

sex coach Nikki, masturbation month, masturbation coachYup, May is masturbation month.  It’s something I love personally and professionally.  Professionally it’s one of the most important tools I use in my sex coaching.  There are many things you can incorporate into masturbation that will have a therapeutic benefit to either overcome sexual dysfunction or expand a person’s experience of pleasure.  I’m truly enjoying the work I do with people that includes masturbation coaching.  It creates a deep connection very quickly and that helps us move through issues powerfully and completely.

I put up a couple if informational videos on my youtube channel for masturbation month.  What do you think?  Click here to visit my channel

How are you?  How may I be of service to you this summer?

Please take a moment to drop a note with an update about you and yours.  Ask me any questions you might have.  Let me know if something I’ve shared has helped you out.

Bondage And Sensation Play Session Recap From Sex Coach Nikki

Adding sensation play to love making sessions can increase the intensity of your time together. Bondage and blindfolding will increase a partner’s vulnerability and help them to be focused on the sensations in their body. Make sure to keep it fun and interesting using a variety of objects and types of touch.  If you’re interested in learning how to incorporate this just ask me, Sex Coach Nikki.  Also, feel free to check out www.NikkisLessons.com.

Below is the transcript in case you’d rather read it:)

 

here’s a recap from a session with a
friend
focused on sensation play basically
it was all focused on sensation play
and focused on the pleasure
side the spectrum so
we didn’t use any safe word nothing like
that
we just agreed that if there was
something happening that he didn’t love
that I would stop and
we would we would talk about it.
That never happened because I go very
slow
and I was able to just be in tune with
him
I definitely did stretch his boundaries so
that was
a huge pleasure so I’m going to
now show you some of the things I used and
let you see what you think so here we are
in my session room after my
session here I am
(laughing)
this is the bed we were on
and first thing I did was I
tied him up gentlyin my restraints and
we used the velcro straps
put him onto the edges the
bed
so just loosely bound
very comfortable spread eagle and I
had
the blindfold on him and
you know this is someone who normally
is entirely
in a highlevel of
stress very much ahead take charge
kind of person
so for him to give up the
control is big deal it’s really big
deal
and I felt honored that he would do it in
and it was great
it’s really good to take away the site
because it just made him that much more
vulnerable an outofcontrol
and more focused on sensations in his
body
so is it made it more intense so some
of the things I used
we started out soft with
the
feather duster here and then we went
on to this belt I ran this belt
over him over his body first soft then I took it and
I gave him little taps for the sensation of
the impact
and I took this it’s a little bit more
serious
belt stiffer and again I ran it over his
body
and then just with the tip did
some impact play so that was nice
name use this flogger know this flogger
very soft its suede and
when you just set down there’s no pain to
it
mean I did some brushing
then we got a little bit more
on the impact side of things with this
now this is actually some metal on the
and of this flogger and I did some brushing
slow and fast and then some little impact on his
nipples and genitals
its really intense when all that was
done
I got out the vibrator
and it’s not plugged in right now so you can’t hear the
vibration but between that and the lube
I got on top of him
and while he was working
to pleasure me I
was playing with him with a vibrator
and it was really nice because he was
totally you know outta control and
and basically experienced
an orgasm of a type that he’s never felt
before
because of his situation where he was
spread eagle
it was like he
couldn’t work he couldn’t make it happen
when that orgasm came it was
completely
the kind of orgasm where he was
letting go he couldn’t
clinch his muscles he couldn’t bear down
he can’t work harder to make it happen
and he actually
he came uncontrollably with a huge huge
amount
of ejaculate it was very hot
and I think because of the type to
orgasm it was he didn’t feel
you know spent and tired afterward and
actually
wasn’t done done and I was able to then
get the massage oil
and I’ve been using olive
oil and I’ve been using the lemon
also it’s very refreshing and smells good it
feels good
and I was able to just massage his
entire thighs groin
and we even played a little bit more
after that
yeah very nice
very nice and I just had to share with
you
alright well I hope you enjoy this and
let me know if you have any questions I’d
be happy to answer them

 

Couples Sex Coaching For Pleasure Session Part Three

Sex Coach - Anal MassageDuring couples sex coaching I often teach specific techniques.  One of the most popular is sensual massage and anal massage in particular.  I’m happy to explain the mechanics and set it up so that the couple has the tools they need to practice at home on their own.

Other things I teach in person:
~Fellatio – improve technique and overcome using teeth
~Penis Massage – taking hand jobs to a new level
~Anal Sex – making it feel good for her

Couples Sex Coaching Session

I demonstrate how to slowly approach the anus, massaging first the place where the legs meet the groin, the sits bones and the entire crack.  Soft long strokes one after the other relax and arouse him.  Shorter deeper strokes massaging all the muscles in the crack relax and arouse him even further.  He is going with the flow of arousal and enjoyment, opening his legs further and tilting his pelvis higher.  Applying lubrication directly to the anus I massage his outer sphincter in every direction, gently stretching and relaxing it.  I get even more lube and without penetrating I press inward against his anus with the flat of my thumb.  He asks his wife to come and massage his balls.  She stands across from me with her hand on his scrotum and he reaches back and holds her other hand with his.  Their love and connection is beautiful and I’m loving being a part of it.

Sex Coach Las Vegas - Anal StimulationHe’s ready for penetration and I point my thumb tip in ready to slide it into his anus.  I instruct him to take a deep breath and on his exhale I slide my thumb into him.  I stay there and just hold him, feeling the arousal running through him.  When a person is this aroused stopping and holding can be very pleasurable for them as their muscles flex and relax themselves creating their own internal massage.  Then I gently pressed in every direction.  Envisioning a clock with the tail bone being 12 and the prostate being 6 I stop at each number of the “clock” checking in with him asking how it feels.  He said good a few times and I asked him to rate it on a scale of 1 to 5, 1 being not painful – that there might be discomfort but not pain and if there was any pain we needed to stop and address it immediately – and 5 being total bliss.  I continued around the “clock” and when I was twisting my wrist completely I gently pulled out my thumb and inserted my index finger.

I explained in between stops that this was extremely therapeutic – I was massaging all the pelvic floor muscles from the inside.  The arousal helps to facilitate a better pelvic floor massage because the pressure is pleasurable instead of painful.  At the prostate I touched each side and did a few different types of strokes all the time communicating with him about how each felt.   I also slid my finger in and out of his anus and asked if he liked that sensation (he didn’t).  Then I asked if he felt complete and since he did I ended that part of the treatment with gentle holding while his wife held his scrotum.

Other Resources

Want to learn more about erotic massage? Visit one of the following sites for detailed instructional videos.

http://NikkisLessons.com

http://EroticMassage.com


												

Couples Sex Coaching For Pleasure Session Part One

couples sex coaching

How do you (and your partner) know if you’re ready for couples sex coaching?  If you’ve had fantasies and curiosities for a long time and haven’t been able to move forward.  If you wan to add a little zing to your sex life – to spice things up.  If otherwise things are terrific but you would like a distraction from the everyday grind – an you want to be distracted together.

In preparation for a couples session I find out how long you’ve been together, what your current relationship is like, if you’ve discussed all the various foreseeable outcomes of our time together and a short sexual history for each of you.  We trouble shoot in advance the main issues that could crop up as a result of working with me and how to deal with them.  We do this via email.

Although it’s ideal to work with me for a series of sessions, many of my clients come in from out of town and can only see me once.  Over the next week or so I will be sharing the process I recently went through with a couple that worked with me recently.

Couples Sex Coaching Session

I get to the room and introduce myself and talk a bit about my week and my background to set the tone of friendliness and support.  Through discussion with her I determine her true level of comfort – up until that point I had only interacted with the husband through email.  I explain my boundaries and goals for the session.  I make sure she knows this session is about them and their pleasure, not mine.  I will be interactive only to their comfort level and at any time that could increase or decrease and that is okay.  We will have constant communication throughout the session to check in on how they are feeling and let that be our guide.

I explain to them that there are several reasons that bringing in a professional is a great choice:

  1. By having a session you are putting your experience into a container that has a beginning and an end.  Afterward, you can review what you liked and didn’t like and there’s not a lingering question of whether the experience was complete or not.
  2. You won’t be worried about any emotional romantic issues coming back to haunt your marriage.
  3. It’s a more relaxing situation than trying to pick somebody up in the bar and not knowing what you’re going to get – what their skill level is sexually or what their motives are.
  4. Whatever pleasure I give to one partner the other partner gets the credit for it.

We review their interests as a couple.  He loves massage and all touch so he will be getting a full body sensual rubdown.  Then they want to review different handjob and blowjob techniques.  For her turn she wants to be pleasured.  She’s never “been with a woman” before and this has been a very exciting idea for the two of them.

 Other Resources

Want to learn more about erotic massage?  Visit one of the following sites for detailed instructional videos.

http://NikkisLessons.com

http://EroticMassage.com