Cunnilingus: 7 Tips to Make Her See Stars
7 Tips and “Please Don’t Stop” of Oral Sex that will make her see stars!
Today we’re going to be talking about cunnilingus: what it is and how to perform well.
To put it simply, cunnilingus is the technical term for performing oral sex on a woman. Similar to fellatio, it can be used as foreplay or as the main event of your sexual adventures!
1. Do Talk to Your Girl!
Let her know that you want to do this for her.
Many women are insecure about receiving oral sex for a variety of reasons. Women are often more self-conscious than men about things. For example, what it smells or tastes like down there.
Ladies, believe your man when he says he wants to do this for you. Consider this a gift. You wouldn’t turn down jewelry or a new car, so don’t turn him down on an even better gift!
Of course, receiving oral sex is always a choice. It’s okay to say no, even when your partner genuinely wants to give you pleasure.
2. Please Don’t Dive Right In!
Start slow and easy. Kiss and gently caress your way down her body. Run your fingers lightly on the insides of her thighs.
If she’s ticklish, slow down and be a little firmer if she enjoys that. This may help tame the ticklish reaction.
She needs to be relaxed and receptive to you.
I would also suggest making sure that you have recently shaved or your beard is smooth and soft.
Your rough 5 o’clock shadow may look hot, but when it is scraping against her inner thighs, it won’t feel good at all.
3. Do Be Gentle With Her Clitoris
The temptation for many men when going down on their girl is to head straight for the clit.
This is not necessarily going to make her see stars, especially if she is not yet aroused.
The clitoris has thousands of nerve endings and can be highly sensitive. However, sensitivity and preferences vary from woman to woman.
The clitoral hood protects the glans of the clitoris. Its appearance and how much of the glans is visible vary between individuals and with arousal.
Many women (and men) find it erotic to even start before she takes her panties off.
You can touch and kiss her through the fabric. This can provide gentler stimulation before she’s ready for more.
4. Do Stimulate the Labia and Vaginal Opening
The clit may be the star of the show, but the supporting cast needs loving too!
The labia and surrounding areas can also be sensitive and pleasurable to touch.
Consider it the equivalent of her giving attention to your balls during a blowjob. Feels phenomenal, right?
It can feel just as amazing to her, especially since many women haven’t experienced much focused attention on these areas.
As always, pay attention to what your partner enjoys.
5. Do Use Plenty of Lube
Lubrication can make sensual touch more comfortable and enjoyable.
Saliva provides some moisture, but it dries quickly and can transmit infections. A body-safe lubricant compatible with oral sex may be a better choice.
Especially at first, before she has produced enough of her own lubrication, you may want to add some as needed.
Use the flat of your tongue to spread the pressure out across her vulva. The tip of the tongue puts more pressure in one small area, which may be too intense for some women.
Experiment with different movements and pressure, and let her preferences guide you.
6. Please Don’t Be Afraid to Get Your Fingers in on the Action!
Many women enjoy manual stimulation as well as oral stimulation. You can incorporate this into your cunnilingus adventures if your partner wants it.
Some women also enjoy stimulation of the area commonly called the G-spot, located along the front wall of the vagina.
Its sensitivity and texture vary, and not everyone experiences this area as a distinct pleasure spot.
Start slow and gentle. Check in with her about what feels good.
She may enjoy more pressure or stimulation as arousal increases. Others may prefer a gentler approach.
Let her tell you what she enjoys rather than assuming that more intensity is always better.
7. PLEASE DON’T STOP!
When she’s close to climaxing, she may let you know through words or physical cues.
If she enjoys what you’re doing, maintaining the same rhythm and pressure can help her stay focused on the sensations.
However, body language isn’t always clear. Ask what she wants, especially if you’re unsure.
Some women prefer consistent stimulation as they approach orgasm. Others want a change in pressure or movement.
Follow her lead and keep communicating.
That’s how you help make the experience pleasurable and, hopefully, make her see stars!
Happy Endings!