Pencil illustration from “Sex for One” by Betty Dodson, 1986
Happy February! In honor of V-day (Valentine’s Day), I’m going to focus on the vulva and vagina this month.
I often talk about the anatomy of pleasure, and I even made up a new word: vaginatomy!
Exploring Female Ejaculation
Last week, I hosted a female squirting orgasm class/party. The party part didn’t really happen, but the class was a huge success!
I also videotaped it and am about to start burning copies.
Female ejaculation is so interesting to so many. I think it’s because it seems so mysterious and because not every woman does it.
Understanding How Squirting Works
Almost any female can do it (there is the very rare exception).
While 10% or so squirt without trying, the rest can learn if they want to.
It’s a matter of retraining your vaginal muscles to push out during an orgasm instead of pulling in.
That pushing out applies pressure to what are called the Skene’s glands or vestibules. These are pockets of spongy tissue just below the surface of the vulva on either side of the vaginal opening.
The pressure from pushing can be increased with your fingers.
One way is by externally rubbing in a downward motion from the clit area to the vaginal opening.
Another way is by internally rubbing the front of the vaginal wall, pulling out in the “come hither” motion.
The fluid exits from the opening of the urethra.
A note about current understanding: This explanation reflects what I taught when I originally wrote this article in 2013. Researchers now distinguish between squirting, which generally involves fluid released from the bladder, and female ejaculation, which typically refers to a smaller amount of fluid associated with the paraurethral (Skene’s) glands. These experiences vary from person to person. Research has not established that nearly everyone can learn to squirt or that a particular vaginal muscle technique reliably produces it.
For more information about intimate touch and anatomy, read How to Include Genital Massage in a Sensual Massage.
Recognizing Female Ejaculation
Many women may be ejaculating without even knowing it.
The amount of fluid can vary from a few ounces to cups at the extreme.
It’s tough to notice smaller amounts because they get lost in the shuffle of pussy juice, lube, and cum.
Also, the fluid often doesn’t squirt. Instead, it comes out as more of a gush.
Exploring your body and noticing different sensations can be part of learning about your own pleasure. I share more about this in Treasures From Self-Examination and Pleasure Practices.
Questions About Female Ejaculation
Ladies:
Do you squirt/ejaculate? Do you have any experiences you’d like to share? Do you have any questions you’d like to ask? Would you like to share any pictures or videos?
Men:
What do you think about female ejaculation?