Feeling clean and comfortable can help you relax and be more present during intimacy.
Being clean and feeling comfortable in your body can make a big difference when you’re getting ready to prepare for intimacy. Feeling comfortable can make it easier to bring more presence and pleasure into the experience.
While there can be something kinky about being with someone right after they get home from work or the gym, that’s usually the exception rather than the rule. Developing good personal grooming habits can help you feel more confident and ready to enjoy yourself.
Start With a Good Shower
Start with a full-body shower using plenty of soap and warm water. Pay special attention to your entire groin and anal area. Use gentle soap to avoid irritation and make sure to rinse it off completely.
For yoni/vagina owners, gently wash the vulva with warm water. If you use soap, choose something mild and unscented. Never clean inside the vagina with soap. The vagina is self-cleaning.
Don’t forget the anal area. Make sure to clean in the pucker of your anus with your fingertip.
Gently scrub anywhere you have hair to make sure it’s clean and exfoliated and to release any loose hairs.
You can also change your look by trimming your pubic hair, shaving it, or getting it waxed off.
What About Pubic Hair?
Removing pubic hair won’t make you cleaner.
Many people like trimmed or no pubic hair when giving oral sex, and some people are more sensitive without their hair. Be careful at first, though. Pubic hair provides protection against chafing and other irritations, so your skin may be more sensitive without it. You may also be prone to ingrown hairs and heat rashes.
To avoid ingrown hairs, make sure to exfoliate regularly, depending on how sensitive your skin is, and use an ingrown hair serum you like.
There isn’t one right way to groom your pubic hair. Do what makes you feel comfortable and sexy.
Getting Ready After Using the Bathroom
If you’re worried about being clean after going to the bathroom, carry unscented wet wipes with you.
If you don’t have wet wipes, bring your foreplay into the shower before your lover goes below the belt. This can be a quicker cleanup if you’ve done your full cleaning routine a few hours earlier.
Don’t Forget What You Put on Your Skin
Avoid putting lotions or fragrances directly on the skin in the pubic area. Not only can they irritate you, but they usually taste funny.
When you’re getting ready for intimacy, the goal isn’t to make yourself perfect. It’s to feel clean, comfortable, and ready to enjoy being close to someone. If you’re thinking about the bigger picture, getting clear about why you want to improve your sex life can be a great place to start.
A little preparation can go a long way toward helping you relax and be present when the fun begins. If you want help exploring what makes intimacy more pleasurable and fulfilling for you, erotic life coaching gives you a space to explore that.