Delayed Ejaculation

Email Nikki@NikkiLundberg.com to more information on sex coaching and masturbation coaching.

Delayed ejaculation is also known as retarded ejaculation or impaired ejaculation. This is whenever is it taking you longer than you would like to ejaculate and you are frustrated. You may also be getting tired or sore from sex or masturbation before you ejaculate. Some people constantly experience their partners frustration since they haven’t cum yet and they are tired or sore.

There are many possible causes for delayed ejaculation both physical and mental.

My approach is to work with you to review your sex history and together uncover beliefs and thoughts that might be affecting you. Optionally I witness your masturbation practice in a way that releases shame and can show me where you might make some changes in your physical practice.

You will experience more pleasure from your body, have improved confidence and experience deeper satisfaction by the time we are finished working together.

Email me to set up a time to talk so we can see if we would be a good fit Nikki@NikkiLundberg.com

Masturbation Benefits

There are a TON of benefits to be had from masturbation and you can exponentially increase how many you experience by practicing mindful masturbation. My favorite benefit is stress relief. Our daily lives are filled with stress from many sources and with masturbation you can use erotic energy to move the stress through and out of your body.

For more information about mindful masturbation and the masturbation coaching I offer send me an email at Nikki@NikkiLundberg.com Let me know what you’re interests are and we can schedule a time for a quick chat to see if we would be a good fit for working together

I invite you to celebrate masturbation month with me by trying something new and letting me know how it works out. If you are interested in the therapeutic benefits even better. I love sexual healing! While I am not a licensed therapist my methods are very therapeutic. I truly enjoy being a masturbation coach because I get to co-create with my clients and be with them on the journey as they experience rapid improvement. The point is not that people need to learn how to masturbate – it’s that they can use certain masturbation skills and techniques to overcome common sexual dysfunction and to expand their experience of pleasure.

My Climax

May is masturbation monthI started masturbating very young, realizing that it felt good to put pressure and friction “down there”. There was a time when I started to notice climax. And then I started experimenting with penetration.

As I became sexually active I continued to masturbate.  I only noticed climax during masturbation.  I never used anything battery operated (vibrators felt tickly or painful). The only porn I used was the promo magazines for the “dancers to you” that are free here in Vegas.

In my early 20’s I began to use erotica.  I began to feel when I had a climax during partner sex.

In my late 20’s I began to use porn online.  With a small child and a new business achieving climax as fast as possible was the goal.

As a sex educator I began to experiment with different vibrating devices – rabbits, bullets, Hitachis. I don’t generally use them but I did experiment with them. I also learned all I could about pleasure and arousal and climax and what it means to be in an orgasmic state.

The older I’ve gotten the more pleasure I’ve been able to experience and the longer it has taken me to have a clitoral climax.

This last time takes the cake though. Almost 2 weeks. To have a climax.

I’m truly re-evaluating my relationship with climax right now. It seems that as I’ve become more and more mindful of what makes my body feel good the more pleasure I experience. I have been in an orgasmic state time and time again during these last 2 weeks – either by masturbation, orgasmic meditation, or partner sex – but feeling good and orgasmic did not include climax.

Even though I’m practicing mindful masturbation and focusing on sensation only I did try using erotica and porn a couple of times because I truly desired a release (old habits are hard to break) but even those did not push me over the edge.

What does this mean? I feel like now that my pussy is awake she cannot go back to sleep. She is enjoying all the attention and pleasure. Maybe it’s just now that I’ve been able to truly approach sex and pleasure without a goal or agenda.

Whatever it is, I’m grateful for all I know, for all the pleasure I’ve experienced and for the big climax I had last night.

To find out about waking your genitals up and experiencing more pleasure check out my 30 day Pleasure eCourse – on sale for May because it’s National Masturbation Month! 

Masturbation Coaching For Slow Sex

When trying something new as a couple it’s ideal for both to get coaching together.  Also, the habits of each persons solo sex will effect the couple’s partner sex.

Couples Sex Coach Session For Christmas Part 3

masturbation coaching sex coaching for conservative couples Sex Coach Nikki LundbergHe lay on the bed on his back and I sat between his knees.  We talked about his masturbation habits and techniques.   He masturbates several times a week using porn.  I saw how he was touching himself while I was working with his girlfriend.  He used a strong grip and aggressive jacking motions.  I explained that not many pussies would be able to re-create that type of intense stimulation.  He would need to change his habits in order to become sensitized for the gentler feeling of vaginal penetration.  Even for anal sex where the sphincter is tighter he will need to go slowly at first and that could make his erection wane.  On top of all that they want to use condoms for birth control and since condoms can also decrease sensation he needed to get his cock more sensitive to subtle stimulation.

Using my hand and lube I gently massaged his cock somewhat simulating the way a pussy would feel.  He was not able to become fully erect because the lack of stimulation – both visual and physical.  That’s the other thing about having the habit of using pornography to masturbate – partner sex is usually not as visually sensational.  A person may have no problem becoming aroused and climaxing with porn but with their partner they may be unable to and this is why.  I explained to him that not only does he need to become more sensitive to gentler stimulation but he also needs to become more in touch with his body and physical stimulation in general so he won’t be reliant upon visual stimulation.  I asked him if he had ever done PC muscle exercises and he said no.  I explained that with strong pelvic floor muscles he could consciously pump more blood into his dick and his erection would also be stronger and thicker.

In light of all this information I suggested he enroll in my 30 day self pleasure program which outlines a routine for becoming more sensate focused and strengthening the PC muscles.

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To find out about the 30 Day Self Pleasure Program visit http://www.nikkilundberg.com/30-day-self-pleasure-program/