For mindful masturbation, we need to begin by slowing down and paying attention.
Sometimes we don’t want to slow down and get quiet with ourselves because what bubbles up may be uncomfortable.
As a result, the parts of ourselves we’ve ignored or actively repressed may come up for us to feel, integrate, or release.
Experiencing these feelings while holding ourselves with acceptance, approval, and eventually arousal can be a path to greater pleasure.
It is my path.
How to Practice Mindful Masturbation
Next time you masturbate, try setting a timer. If you are new to meditation, start with 5 minutes. If you are experienced, go with 15 minutes.
First, start with full body relaxation. Relax your heart. Relax your asshole.
Then, focus on the sensations you feel in your body. Notice the energy in those sensations as they move through your body.
Next, notice the stories that come up in your mind with these sensations.
Relax and release them.
Feel the charge and electricity of these sensations licking you from the inside out.
Look for the edge of pleasure that may exist alongside even the most painful feelings, sensations, or emotions that come up.
That pleasure may be there, although it may be subtle. You may not find it on your first try.
However, the more you can relax your body and release the stories you have about the sensation, the more you will be able to access that pleasure.
Give Yourself Permission to Feel
It is in you.
You just need to be brave enough to feel it.
Most importantly, you need to value yourself enough to make and take the time.
If you’re interested in exploring other ways to connect with pleasure, you might enjoy learning how to get in the mood for sex or discovering the benefits of reading erotica.