To bridge the gap between the masculine “how” and the feminine “what”.Â I’ve suggested this tool to several clients over the last couple weeks with great success.
Many of us are verbally abusive or violent with our partners and we don’t even realize it.Â We dominate, manipulate, and give guilt trips in order to communicate how we feel.Â We can use passive aggressiveness, aggressive aggressiveness, sarcasm, stonewalling and more to try to convey when we areÂ upset.
Usually, this causes the other person to become defensive, and we all know the best defense is a good offense.Â So they strikeÂ back at us, verbally, and the situation escalates.Â If this was happening with physical violence we would never tolerate it.Â Â Since it’s verbal though many of us turn a blind eye.
I don’t agree with everything taught in Non Violent Communication but I think a lot of it is useful.Â Often times people have a really hard time getting vulnerable and sharing what is really going on.Â It may have been so long that there is barely any trust left with their partner.Â This is a feminine and messy and can be really hard to reach.Â The structure in the Non Violent Communication gives a masculine container to use to express our emotions and wild feminine vulnerability.
If you are having a difficult time expressing feelings and being vulnerable definitelyÂ checkÂ this site out for some resources.