Why I’m Taking Down Nikki’s Lessons
Why am I taking down Nikkislessons.com?
The short answer is that it is not fulfilling its purpose and I feel it is also confusing people about what I offer as a sex coach.
For those of you who are new to me and my work, I started a video website in 2011 called NikkisLessons.com.
The intention was for me to share my knowledge and educate people on how to do sexual things. This would allow me to leverage my time by working one to many.
It was also meant to be a more financially accessible way to work with me. This was especially important for those who could not afford in-person coaching.
While I do know the site helped many people, I don’t think it truly supported my vision of being a teaching tool.
When My Vision Didn’t Match the Results
I was personally the demonstration model for 99% of the videos. What I found was that many viewers were more interested in interacting with me as a sexual partner or entertainer than as an educator.
There is nothing wrong with that. I am also a sex worker after all.
The problem was that whenever I marketed my services as a coach or educator, I’d get a lot of requests for entertainment (making pornographic videos). That was not my desire.
This has been one of the most difficult decisions I’ve had to make in my business. I’ve put a lot of time and money into creating the website.
While it was not a raging success, I would not call it a failure by any measure.
The site has been a huge part of my business endeavors over the last nine years and I am somewhat sad to see it go.
Contrast Brings Clarity
This is one of my most important lessons and teaching points.
Only by evaluating an experience can you gain clarity. Compare what you wanted vs. what happened so you can see the contrast. Then you can make a new decision moving forward.
I tried having a video website where I had explicit how-to lessons on sex, and it did not give me the results I wanted.
Even after trying to make it work in several different ways, it still did not do what I wanted it to.
Now I am willing to let it go and try something totally new and different.
My hope is that by letting go of this piece of my business, I will have more bandwidth. I can put that energy towards the activities I do desire. The ways I enjoy working with people and helping them in their day to day lives.
For another reflection on learning from personal experiences, read Treasures from Self-Examination and Pleasure Practices.
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