Do you think it is truly possible to put self-care, including self-pleasure, first?
I see it espoused all the time: prioritize yourself. Take care of yourself. I move in circles where people prioritize pleasure above everything else. They use it as a foundation for life and business, and as a way to regulate the nervous system and emotions.
Making Self-Care and Self-Pleasure a Priority
I’ve been attempting this. Putting pleasure more top of mind. One day, when I tried to think about what I should post, I felt a sense of heaviness and stuckness. I was moving through big emotions in my personal life and feeling very tender and sensitive.
I was also feeling the uncertainty in the world around me. It seemed like things were starting to pick back up business-wise, but then things became uncertain again. What could I possibly write or share that would be helpful?
Choosing Self-Pleasure as an Act of Self-Care
So I stopped and took time for self-pleasure. It was not convenient or the “right” time. I know I am privileged to have the privacy to do it.
I was able to work through some of these emotions during my session, but mostly I was able to get the touch and care that I feel I needed. I was able to experience feeling good and special and know I don’t need to depend on anyone else for that.
Feelings of love and worth come from inside, and I can do something like self-pleasure to show that to myself.
If you’d like to explore this practice further, you might enjoy my article on how reading erotica can help you explore fantasies and get in the mood.
Moving Through Difficult Emotions
I still have a heavy heart, but it’s okay. I can move through it and be available for connection and service. This too shall pass. Everything does. It will ultimately work out, one way or another.
One of the biggest things about feelings is that they are based on beliefs. Beliefs are thoughts that we think over and over. Change your thoughts, change your beliefs, change your feelings.
Choosing How I See the World
My thought for today is that it is all working out for me. If I can think and believe that, then everything that happens will be filtered through that lens, that point of view, that perception.
Explore Your Own Relationship With Pleasure
If you’d like support exploring your relationship with yourself, your desires, and your pleasure, you can learn more about what to expect when working with me as a sex coach.